Any lady who leaves her man with vision to follow a man with television because she's in a hurry, will soon watch the man who has vision on her vision-less husband's television. Learn!
Three weeks ago, I posted a lot of quotes on how to succeed in marriage from this good woman, Rev. Funke Felix-Adejumo who is married to the founder of Agape Christian Ministries, Bishop Felix Adejumo. I've even attended one of their church branches in Lagos without even knowing her then.
Today, I bring you snippets of an interesting chat she had with Punch. She was from a family that suffered a lot with regards to poverty, she also married a man who was not rich. But there was sincerity of purpose. Now they are so comfortable that they feed people and pay school fees for many, etc.
“I felt He [God] couldn’t choose people like us because we didn’t have anything. After I had an encounter with the Lord, I agreed to follow my husband to Akure. Today, I don’t want to live in any other place aside from Akure.”
Recollecting memories of her upbringing evokes memories of a poverty-stricken childhood:
“When I was born, people cried for my father because they expected that my mother would be delivered of a boy having welcomed two girls earlier. When it was time to send me to school, they told my father not to bother to waste his money because I would become pregnant. Afterwards, my brother became sick. For six years, my dad suffered a lot; he sold most of his belongings until my brother died and we became very poor.”
But for the English graduate of University of Nigeria, Nsukka, those trying times were just a phase
“At 14, I gave my life to Jesus and that was when my life witnessed a turnaround and it has been getting better and better. I got born again in 1978 and in 1982, I met my husband. On September 8, 1982, I accepted to marry him and we became man and wife on September 8, 1984.”
Agape Christian Ministries held its first service in August 7, 1988, with two families in attendance. But today the church currently boasts of millions of worshippers in over 20 branches in Nigeria.
“When I see widows go home with food, my husband and I are thankful to God. We recently commissioned a home for abused and battered women because I am tired of women...suffering.”
Speaking to Punch's Jayne Augoye, Madam Funke said, “I hated public life and I never imagined I would become a pastor or a pastor’s wife in my lifetime. When we wedded, I never visualised that my husband would become a pastor. That was why when he said God had called him, I said it was impossible.
“I felt He [God] couldn’t choose people like us because we didn’t have anything. After I had an encounter with the Lord, I agreed to follow my husband to Akure. Today, I don’t want to live in any other place aside from Akure.”
Recollecting memories of her upbringing evokes memories of a poverty-stricken childhood:
“When I was born, people cried for my father because they expected that my mother would be delivered of a boy having welcomed two girls earlier. When it was time to send me to school, they told my father not to bother to waste his money because I would become pregnant. Afterwards, my brother became sick. For six years, my dad suffered a lot; he sold most of his belongings until my brother died and we became very poor.”
But for the English graduate of University of Nigeria, Nsukka, those trying times were just a phase
“At 14, I gave my life to Jesus and that was when my life witnessed a turnaround and it has been getting better and better. I got born again in 1978 and in 1982, I met my husband. On September 8, 1982, I accepted to marry him and we became man and wife on September 8, 1984.”
Agape Christian Ministries held its first service in August 7, 1988, with two families in attendance. But today the church currently boasts of millions of worshippers in over 20 branches in Nigeria.
For her, that is indeed overwhelming. She says, “We are grateful that the Lord could trust us with so much in terms of touching lives. After paying the school fees of some children and seeing their mothers roll on the floor as a show of gratitude, I shed tears. This is because I remember when I couldn’t go to school for two weeks because my parents couldn’t afford to pay my tuition which was N18.
The proud mother and grandmother, spared some thoughts on the marriage institution:
"Marriage doesn’t complete an individual. If you are an incomplete bachelor or spinster, you will have an incomplete marriage. It’s a lot more important to be the right person than finding the right person or marriage. Marriage is not a means to an end but one of the means to an end. When you are happily married, it’s supposed to enhance your destiny.”
Happily married for over three decades, she reveals her secret recipe. “The grace of God and the fear of God has kept us going. My husband is my best friend and I am his. We both run our marriage based on transparency and honesty. We never go to bed bearing grudges and sometimes, we go to bed at 4am trying to iron out issues.
“My husband and I do not work on Mondays. We don’t joke with our vacation, so sometimes we make out time to visit Ghana, Dubai or check into a hotel in Akure just to be together so that nothing will tamper with our marriage, friendship and bodies.”
On the sweetness of marriage, she said: “As a married woman, you are under the authority of your husband. You are not a slave, but make sure you honour, befriend him and perform your marital rolesso there won’t be any crisis."
Happily married for over three decades, she reveals her secret recipe. “The grace of God and the fear of God has kept us going. My husband is my best friend and I am his. We both run our marriage based on transparency and honesty. We never go to bed bearing grudges and sometimes, we go to bed at 4am trying to iron out issues.
“My husband and I do not work on Mondays. We don’t joke with our vacation, so sometimes we make out time to visit Ghana, Dubai or check into a hotel in Akure just to be together so that nothing will tamper with our marriage, friendship and bodies.”
On the sweetness of marriage, she said: “As a married woman, you are under the authority of your husband. You are not a slave, but make sure you honour, befriend him and perform your marital rolesso there won’t be any crisis."
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