I’m So Confused! Should I Walk Away After My Unfaithful Husband Got HIV

A confused woman who has been tortured for many years by a cheating husband is worried after the promiscuous husband contracted HIV which has strained their relationship.

 

Dear Readers,

 

I have been married for 18 years now, I have 4 children(4boys) . I really have a big task in my marriage because my husband is HIV positive (he is a contractor). I am negative. I have gone for test in 6 different hospitals and my result shows negative. It’s really God’s doing, not my making.

 

When he started falling unnecessary sick, I kept asking him, what is this sickness all about, because his work mostly takes him outside of LAGOS, and anywhere he is posted to. Although we rarely have s*x, because he sometimes punishes me with that, for me to start begging him, but it got to a length, I grew a tough skin and decided to rule out s*x as an agenda, because l am a teacher, and I get tired after dealing with my students.

 

My husband sometimes stays 4 to 3 months outside, coming back all he does is to bring quarrel on his way home. His children sometimes love not to see him around, but l keep advising them that they wouldn’t hate their father at all, that they should learn to love him, more and more.

 

But when my husband opened up to me about his HlV status, I felt terribly bad, but since two years now, we have been managing it and living healthy, he has been taking his medications regularly, I have been trying my best to be a loving wife, even when sometimes I feel terrible.

 

But the problem am having with him now is that, he keeps accusing me of cheating, if I don’t come back early from my supermarket, he will start getting angry saying where did I go, that it is better I divorce him than to play on his intelligence. Last night, I went to shop for some finished product in my supermarket and traffic dealt with me on the way, all I got was too much calls from him and accusations. I’m getting fed up with his rude talks honestly. Has he not tortured me enough?

 

Whenever I come home sometimes, when I undress and get into the bathroom to bath, he goes to my basket of dirty clothes, and start smelling the pant, that I removed. I have seen him do that countlessly.

 

I am trying to be calm, but he is provoking me honestly. I’m trying to hide this his health status from his family, even my children do not know up till now, still yet, I can’t rest for him when I get home, what can l do?

 

From anonymous worried woman.

 

What should she do?

 

Shared by Cynthia Uju Raphael, a relationship expert and manager.